I spent this morning babysitting for Elissa’s daughter Charlotte, who is now two and a half. The last time I babysat her, she was still more or less preverbal. Now she’s a real live toddler who walks and talks and has opinions about things. This was a much different type of babysitting. Also, the last time I was in attendance, it was evening, and she went to sleep soon after I got there. I was pretty sure this wouldn’t happen at 9 AM, so I came armed with a 20-ounce coffee, knowing I’d probably need it.
Charlotte is a very easy kid to be around; she lives in a family that is very dedicated to reading aloud and to storytelling, and so she is in that curious phase of early childhood development where reality and fantasy are indistinguishable, and she has an almost-continual running monologue made up of sentences she has heard in her favorite stories. My babysitting consisted mostly of listening to her, and waiting to see whether anything she said might be indicative of something she needed or wanted in current time. Unlike the last time I was with her, she has now proceeded to being able to tell me pretty clearly what she thinks should be happening, so I don’t have to guess. At one point, she informed me that she wanted something to drink. I took her approved drink out of the refrigerator, and she imperiously told me: “Put it in my little cup.”
The little cup was nowhere to be seen, so I asked her if she could show me where it was. She rolled her eyes a bit, but went over to the drawer where it is kept, and pointed. Once I got the little cup out, I could see why she’d insisted; it’s very cute. Then we went down to her playroom so she could draw on her easel, which has a dry-erase board on one side, and a chalkboard on the other side. I never had a chalkboard when I was little, and I always wanted one, so it was a little difficult for me not to want to play with Charlotte’s toys. But I didn’t want to be rude, so I sat down and read one of her books instead. It was a good book about a kitten that gets its tail caught in the screen door, so it has to go to the vet. I learned that the vet isn’t such a bad place. While I was reading this, the family cat, Mac, came in, took one look at me, and decided I was the love of his life. He hopped up in my lap, wrapped his arms and legs around my waist, buried his face in my shirt, and purred for all he was worth. Charlotte was much engrossed with “drawing” on her chalkboard (this involved much random scribbling) so I told Mac the story of the kitten at the vet.
Then Charlotte wanted to go upstairs, so we did. This was a good idea, because I needed the rest of my coffee. While I was drinking it, Charlotte announced, “David catch Charlotte!” She then ran into the laundry room, giggling hysterically. The rules of this game seemed simple enough; she would run away, and I would chase her in a desultory fashion so that she didn’t actually feel chased, as I was afraid that if I really chased her, she’d run too fast and fall down. Then I would express great astonishment that I’d been able to catch her, and give her a big hug and pick her up and swing her around a couple of times. This was toddler comedy gold. We did this until David, who is 36 going on 70, got kind of worn out. Then Charlotte crawled up in her stroller and announced, “I’m ready to go.”
I would have taken her for a walk, but I’d left Elissa’s house key at my place. Plus I hadn’t asked permission to take Charlotte out of the house, so in hindsight, I wouldn’t have gone even if I’d had the key. However, Charlotte clearly expected something to happen. So I wheeled her around the living and dining room for half an hour. It was familiar scenery, but viewed from this novel perspective, it seemed to entertain her. It was pretty boring for me, though, so I absentmindedly started to sing, as I sometimes do when I’m fussing around my own house. Charlotte seemed positively transfixed by this, so I sang her some opera, transposed down a fourth so she didn’t have to endure my glass-cracking spinto range. “Do that again! Do it again!” she ordered, when I was done. So I did. “I like your songs,” she informed me. I don’t know when I’ve had a more enthusiastic audience.
Thanks to the 20 ounces of coffee, I then really really had to use the bathroom, and I wasn’t sure what I was supposed to do with Charlotte. Last time, she was asleep and safe by the time Nature called, so it wasn’t an issue. This is one of those questions I just didn’t think to ask. I weighed the risks of leaving Charlotte alone for maybe a minute vs. leaving the door open and risking some blight on her young life vs. taking her in the bathroom with me and perhaps somehow scarring her psychologically and irreversibly. So I opted for the fastest piss in the West, hoping she couldn’t kill herself in the 30 seconds it took me to get in and out of there. She was, thankfully, still alive when I got back out of the bathroom.
After that, Charlotte wanted to go back downstairs to her easel. She gave me a pen and said, “David draw a bug.”
“You want me to draw on your easel?” I asked. This was almost too good to be true.
“Draw a bug,” she repeated.
“Do you want to draw a bug?” I asked, wanting to make sure I really understood the protocol.
“David draw a bug!” she insisted, clearly a bit impatient with my seeming recalcitrance.
“OK,” I said. I drew a dragonfly.
“Fly!” she said, delightedly. “Draw another bug!”
I drew a ladybug, and a butterfly, and an ant, and then I was out of bugs I knew how to draw. “How about a spider?” I suggested.
“That’s not a bug,” she said.
“Technically, no — it’s an arachnid. But I don’t know any other bugs to draw, so … do you want to draw a bug?”
“No. David draw a spider,” she said.
“With or without a web?” I asked.
“With web.”
So I drew a spider with a web. “Do you want a fly caught in the web?” I queried. She thought that was a good idea, so I put one in. “The spider will eat that fly, you know,” I said. She clearly thought this idea was disgusting. “But you don’t have to eat one,” I hastened to assure her. At this point, the easel was getting pretty crowded. I didn’t see a dry-eraser anywhere, so I tested how the board was cleaned by licking one fingertip and rubbing. Everything came right off, all over my finger.
“David, go wash your hands!” Charlotte ordered. She had a point, so we went back upstairs and I fixed my hand, and got a damp paper towel for the easel, which I cleaned off.
“Draw … a popsicle!” she commanded. I did, and then she wanted me to draw her eating it. Luckily, she was able to see herself in an image that wasn’t exactly a triumph of realism. Then she thought I should draw a house, and put her family in the windows. Her visual sense accepts that her family’s faces are comprised of a circle with two dots. At that point, Charlotte’s parents and little brother came back home, so my career as a famous artist, singer, and cat whisperer was over for the day.
June 7, 2009 at 5:55 pm |
Only 20 ounces?!
You are probably the world’s best babysitter. Hoping this doesn’t sound as inappropriate as I think it might, I would have loved to have you come over and do stuff with me. So many babysitters consider being able to see the child from wherever they are lounging as the extent of their job. One of my former babysitters always brought her old barbies over, which guaranteed a horrible fight between my sister and me over Hawaiian Barbie. Her hair was the longest.
June 7, 2009 at 6:39 pm |
Well, I will admit that I did carry on a text conversation with the Particular Person during part of my babysitting stint. Charlotte was quite intrigued by this as well. She’s met the PP, so when my phone beeped initially (which prompted Charlotte to say: “David, get the phone!”) I asked her if she remembered the lady who came with me when I had dinner at Charlotte’s house a while ago. Yes, she remembered her. Then I told her that my phone had a message from that lady. Charlotte was wide-eyed at this technological advancement. “Important to get the phone!” she told me. I agreed that it was. Texts from the PP are always a cherished event.
June 7, 2009 at 6:15 pm |
I want to know what opera you sang!
You have a considerable gift here, because your story actually suspended my virulent dislike of children for the entire time I spent reading it. Either that, or Charlotte is one of the rare children I could actually stand to be around.
I suspect the young are fairly laid-back about thinkgs like pissing until adults impose artificial pudeur upon them.
June 7, 2009 at 6:40 pm |
I think Charlotte deserves the credit. She’s a pretty rare find.
And, to answer your question … would you believe Tosca?
If you found this post to be entertaining, you might also enjoy these, also about Charlotte:
http://davidrochester.wordpress.com/2008/10/20/in-which-the-habits-of-small-children-are-a-mystery-to-me/
http://davidrochester.wordpress.com/2008/08/24/in-which-i-perform-an-unlikely-service/
June 7, 2009 at 7:36 pm
Which? Which? “E lucevan le stelle?” Or “Vissi d’arte”?
I can do “Gia mi struggea” entirely on pitch, and most of “Va, Tosca” though I sometimes choke up on the text. The Goddess made me a heldentenor/light baritone. I once got drunk with a drag queen and we did nearly the whole last half of the second act, gender roles reversed. Which would have scared any toddler to death, I’m sure.
June 7, 2009 at 6:51 pm |
David, you write so beautifully, I was totally captivated by you and Charlotte. You are so lucky to have her in your life. Thank you for sharing this with us.
June 7, 2009 at 7:52 pm |
Aw, thanks.
June 7, 2009 at 7:26 pm |
Isn’t it tiring?! I babysat two kids for two straight days, 8 hours each day, a couple of weeks ago and I was totally drained. I had forgotten how some 4 years old want constant attention.
It sounds like you had a great day and you were a treat for Charlotte, too!
June 7, 2009 at 7:52 pm |
Yes, it’s exhausting. I needed a nap!
June 7, 2009 at 7:57 pm |
Sled — “Recondita armonia.” Which is, if I may say so, a hell of a lot easier when dropped a fourth, though it also loses most of its punch. Puccini was one of those composers who wrote tenor arias that only really work for tenors, if ya know what I mean.
Even as little as I know you, may I say … I’d sign up to be tortured by your Scarpia any day of the week.
June 7, 2009 at 8:17 pm |
Cavalier, vi piaccia accomodarvi.
June 7, 2009 at 9:14 pm
Yeah, baby. We’re talking Te Deum with no tedium, here.
June 7, 2009 at 8:11 pm |
Where were you when my kids were little?
LOL, Kids are pretty tough, David, tough enough to live through a potty break anyway.
June 7, 2009 at 9:14 pm |
Oh, that’s good to know. *whew!*
June 7, 2009 at 9:23 pm |
Oh my GOD. This was PRICELESS for me to read! As you know, your appointment was so soon after the babysitting gig that I didn’t get any details. I’m so bemused, so thrilled, so grateful. Her adoration of you is really quite incredible… you are the only one with whom she doesn’t even notice we’re gone. It’s clear to me that it’s just an absolute trust. At the risk of sounding all woo-woo, which you know I’m not at all, there’s something a little otherworldly about the bond, in a way. It’s as if this fresh little spirit knows you on a deeper level than circumstances have yet allowed.
June 7, 2009 at 9:43 pm |
Mac apparently knows me, too.
Oh — and you’re right; the “Frog and Toad” books are an absolute scream. And I do rather resemble Toad, character-wise.
June 8, 2009 at 12:09 am |
Lovely post, David, you big old softie.
June 8, 2009 at 12:29 am |
This was hilarious and touching all at once. You may indeed wear the crown of King Babysitter with pride. I would give a fair amount of money to watch you singing Tosca and wheeling a child around the sitting room. Children are gorgeous at that age but so exhausting and so incredibly bossy. But hey, it’s probably the first and last time you ever get to be so imperious so we probably shouldn’t begrudge them.
June 10, 2009 at 4:24 pm |
That’s why I want to be reincarnated as a cat … unlimited imperiousness.
June 8, 2009 at 3:34 am |
Read one of your posts after a while..haven’t been blogging much..and realized I had missed them
This was very good.
June 10, 2009 at 4:24 pm |
Thanks.
June 8, 2009 at 7:41 am |
It’s a delightful age, in my opinion. How fortunate you get to share in it, that you received her approval (which is harder than you might think), and that you also don’t have the considerable responsibilities that go with it.
Children can survive even longer bathroom trips.
FYI.
June 8, 2009 at 8:02 am |
NPR Sunday morning edition news had a story about a 48 year old man who is doing what he calls “Do-Overs.” You may have heard it. You may able to find something about it online.
He had a terrible experience in kindergarten with a mentally ill teacher. He got permission to attend kindergarten for a few days and participate as a student. The children had no difficulty accepting him as another (though very large) kindergartener.
He had a terrible experience in summer camp. He got permission to attend summer camp again. It took some careful expert to assure the other parents he had no wicked intentions, but he was able to do so.
Your experience described her shows you in your own way are approaching some “do-overs.”
June 8, 2009 at 12:17 pm |
I loved this post, she sounds like a very charming and entertaining child. Also terribly bright “important to get the phone” I’m impressed and you are a great babysitter.
I can’t help myself, but the “fastest piss in the west” brought to mind the kind of fancy re-holstering maneuver that most cowboys do…..but I guess that isn’t actually physically possible
June 10, 2009 at 4:25 pm |
I’d be a very fortunate guy, and in demand in other circles, were that maneuver indeed possible.
June 8, 2009 at 1:17 pm |
You are an awesome babysitter, clearly. I love how you can intuit toddler desires (riding around the dining room in the stroller; “with or without web?”) and yet aren’t afraid to use big words, which I think kids appreciate to some degree.
Toad is a total melancholic, hence all his “Blah”-ing. Though he’s way more messy than you.
June 10, 2009 at 4:27 pm |
Yeah, I couldn’t live in Toad’s house. I notice that he and Frog don’t co-habitate, though they’re sort of the Felix and Oscar of the amphibian world.
June 9, 2009 at 12:04 am |
Oh man, I love Frog and Toad. So many valuable lessons!
That’s the only thing about having pugs instead of children. They don’t have a lot of interest in the kinds of things I appreciate.
Charlotte sounds like a pretty rad little kid.
June 10, 2009 at 4:26 pm |
June 9, 2009 at 3:35 am |
My nephew has a doodle board, and instead of HE doodling in it, he would want me to draw ducks, little houses, flowers etc and basically drive me nuts about it. But as it turns out, its my stress buster now..so if you see me doodling on that board, know that I am busting my stress!
And Charlotte sounds very cute and adorable!
June 10, 2009 at 4:28 pm |
Yeah, it’s funny how they demand custom portraiture.
June 9, 2009 at 11:32 pm |
I rather think I’d like Charlotte. Drawing bugs? Check. Imperiously ordering men around? Check. Having a favoured cup? Check.
All I need is a babysitter of your empathy and intelligence…
June 10, 2009 at 5:01 pm |
Oh God now must know what are the certain circles where they “go for that sort of thing? *shamefully intrigued*
June 10, 2009 at 5:21 pm |
I’m pleading the fifth on that one.
June 10, 2009 at 5:15 pm |
Your Charlotte posts are as delightful as the weasel posts. Really, you do this kind of writing in a way that makes people want to know you.
Happy Birthday, btw. A bit early. Push some limits.
June 10, 2009 at 5:22 pm |
I don’t know why your comment struck me as so funny, but it did … possibly because of the delicately unspoken subtext that on other subjects, my writing might perhaps inspire people to *not* want to know me.
June 10, 2009 at 5:48 pm |
Birthday? I *love* birthdays!
Happy Birthday Dearest David
June 10, 2009 at 5:56 pm |
Thank you. It’s tomorrow, and my plans include ignoring it as completely as possible.
June 10, 2009 at 8:17 pm |
Happy Birthday anyhow
*making strenuous attempts to send good relationship mojo your way*
June 11, 2009 at 5:16 pm |
Art is in the eyes of the beholder. I just created what would be to most adults, a piece of ornage construction paper with four tears in it and six folds. To my son, it was a puppy.
June 11, 2009 at 7:39 pm |
I got so brilliantly caught up in this post, David. You really do have such a way of drawing your readers into your world.
And Frog and Toad, my goodness. I hadn’t thought about those books in ages.
June 12, 2009 at 3:10 am |
New career? Can we hire you for kids’ parties now?
June 12, 2009 at 7:59 pm |
Barone Scarpia sings you a belated “Happy Birthday” too, if that’s not too surreal a concept.
June 13, 2009 at 5:32 am |
Only 44 comments? Even if nobody else besides me will make a shareware contribution to David, the least you can do is provide him with a hundred comments?
Nobody is a cuter blogger than David. Comment, comment, comment, comment, comment.