I had a very strange experience this afternoon; one of those “these things seem to happen only to me” events. I went over to a potential client’s house to present a price opinion to her. I had not met this woman before in person; when I arrived, she told me her husband was out in the back yard finishing up some planting, and he’d be right in, and maybe we could just get started. OK, great. She was probably in her late fifties, tall and thin and a little bit homely, in a pleasant way.
She asked if I wanted anything to drink. I politely declined.
“Oh, but don’t you want some iced coffee? I already made the espresso. I’m going to have some. Don’t you want some?”
I didn’t feel like arguing with her, so I agreed that I did, after all, want iced coffee (which I really, really didn’t — I avoid stimulants when I’m on appointments, as I tend to still get a little nervous around clients I don’t know, and coffee just makes it worse). Then she had to talk me into having cream and sugar in it, which I also didn’t want. She put a straw in the glass, and set it down in front of me, beaming.
“I see your signs all over the place,” she said. “That’s why I called you.”
“Oh? Well, that’s nice.” I pretended to drink some of the coffee; luckily that’s easy to do with a straw.
She was watching me with a curiously intent expression. “Do you have any children?” she asked, apparently apropos of nothing.
“Uh — no. I’m not married. I mean … not that I’d have to be married to have children. But I don’t have any.”
“Oh. I thought you did.”
Why she would have thought this was beyond my comprehension.
“No. I don’t.” I wondered whether this was my conversational cue to ask her whether she had any, but I didn’t feel like talking about her personal life. “So — do you already have somewhere you’re thinking of moving to, or would you be considering looking for another house as well as selling this one?” I asked cheerfully, hoping to move things along.
“We’re going to move out to our summer house in LaPine,” she said. “You must be wearing colored contact lenses.”
As regular readers of this blog may recall, this is an incorrect observation people make on a disconcertingly regular basis. I don’t know what makes people think this, nor do I understand why they feel the need to bring it up.
“No, I’m not,” I said. “LaPine is nice. Nice dry climate, I understand.”
“Yes, it’s dry. Dry and hot. Lots of sun.” She looked down at my arm, which was resting on the table, and remarked, “Your skin is beautiful … it’s like cream and honey. I wish I had skin like that.”
At this point, I had absolutely no idea how to react. I could hear her husband at the back door, and hoped that whatever the fuck she was doing, she would stop when he joined us. I racked my brain for something to say, and came up with the wholly inadequate, “Are you a dermatologist?”
As it turned out, I know her husband by sight from walking in the neighborhood, and the situation was somewhat defused by his “Hey, nice to see you again!” line of conversation. I still don’t know what the hell she was up to … whether she simply has no sense of interpersonal boundaries, or if she had some sinister agenda, or both, or neither, or what. I don’t think I can possibly do business with her, however.
September 6, 2008 at 8:56 am |
She fancied herself a Bond girl, methinks. She knew her hubby was there; she was living on the edge.
Happens to a friend of mine all the time. He’s a firefighter, and very good looking. “However can I repay you?” …. etc….
She thinks you’re attractive .. this is not a bad thing
As for business .. send your step dad on this one?
September 6, 2008 at 9:02 am |
Smokey — Do I have a stepdad? I wish to God I did; unfortunately the asshole I work with really is my dad. But yeah, that’s probably the solution. Let her hit on him; she’s clearly desperate!
September 6, 2008 at 9:12 am |
he’d probably enjoy it a lot more.
She sounds like she’d be a good match for guy I met last night…. he had a house for rent … I went to see…
he had already set off the alarm bells long before he suggested I move in for the rest of the month before hubby was free to move with me…
but he would stay as well … but he would stay upstairs and I could have the downstairs all to myself.
Uh.
No.
Perhaps my motel is not so bad after all.
September 6, 2008 at 9:16 am |
That is a bit odd. I sometimes get random compliments on my complexion OR my eyes, but never a whole list of strange observances… So this lady was weird. Maybe her husband never tells her she’s pretty/not disgusting to look at so she looked to you for that sort of thing? Maybe next time offer her a strange compliment? She’s already taken eye color and skin tone so you’ll have to come up with something else. Maybe she has nice hands?
September 6, 2008 at 9:19 am |
Flit — Yeah. Stay in the motel. Do not room with horny strangers.
Amy — Well actually, she used the hand thing too, but it was so bizarre that I didn’t want to put it in the post. She remarked that my hands looked “as smooth as a twelve-year-old’s.” So I’m like … OK, she’s possibly a pedophile along with everything else. I’m tellin’ ya. She was a nutburger, for sure. Maybe I should have told her that she had a pleasing absence of nose hair, or something.
September 6, 2008 at 9:37 am |
I’m sure this situation was hell for you, but I laughed long and hard at “Are a dermatologist?”
September 6, 2008 at 9:39 am |
Am I a smooth operator, or what?
September 6, 2008 at 9:58 am |
Oh that’s an interesting slip on my part .. he’s your dad, but for some reason, I keep thinking of him as a step-dad. Hmmm.. I’m not sure I want to know why.
Mea culpa…
Wear garlic to the next appt?
September 6, 2008 at 10:44 am |
Perhaps she sells Mary Kay products and they’re starting a line for men. She was just softening you up.
September 6, 2008 at 10:47 am |
You could probably short circuit that in the future by telling her how much effort you take to make a chicken last.
September 6, 2008 at 10:51 am |
David, your dad has been transformed into a step-dad. Or you are a changeling, or something. I haven’t quite worked it out yet, but run with it, while carrying a large pack of garlic.
September 6, 2008 at 11:36 am |
Wherever you take your next vacation, just don’t take it in India. We talk like this all the time, but all the time. Ah, you Americans!
September 6, 2008 at 2:10 pm |
Perhaps he keeps his homely wife locked up in the house all day and all night so she really has no clue how to act around strangers! And maybe she’s a little off. That’s all I can think of.
September 6, 2008 at 4:29 pm |
Oh! I like the idea of your dad getting stuck with her!
Maybe she’s one of your readers, who’s figured out who you really are and was trying to make you feel attractive!
I guess not she’s probably just a weirdo.
Can’t say I blame you for not wanting to do business with her.
September 6, 2008 at 9:47 pm |
She was very flirty, wasn’t she? Either that, or really outgoing…
September 7, 2008 at 12:52 am |
Your skin is like cream and honey.
That’s very funny, really. Made me think of dessert. Perhaps we could name one after you. “Like a slice of warm Rochester?”
September 7, 2008 at 12:44 pm |
Pot-head! Undoubtedly stoned out of her mind! Think about it: repetitions, nonsequiters, emphasis on food and other sensual textures, inappropriate questions about details thereof. She reminds me of every pot-head I’ve ever had the pleasure to interact with. Tomorrow she’ll be a prim-church-lady .
September 11, 2008 at 9:20 am |
Has it occurred to anyone else that she was an alien, looking for a nice new ’skin’ to occupy?
No??
Just me then.