Today was my first day of reading to a child with the SMART program. I had been scheduled to hook up with a little girl named Virginia (which surprised me — other programs I’ve been with have not permitted male volunteers to work with girls, though perhaps because we’re all in one room supervised, it’s different … I saw several men reading to girls) but she had been taken off the program list by her teacher, for some reason. So instead, I got a second-grader named Julio. Julio’s parents do not speak English at home. His teacher informed me, under her breath, that he’s the worst reader in the class. The SMART coordinator informed me, also under her breath, that Julio had been in the program before, and she’d had difficulty finding anyone who wanted to read with him, because he was such a handful.
And so who shows up to read to this child? Mr. Rochester, who is mildly terrified of children, has no idea how to handle small boys, and has never read to a kid in his entire life.
I must have gotten lucky … Julio seemed perfectly happy with me, though the book he chose for us to read was a bit odd … it was apparently written by someone from England, though it was a children’s book, and the vocabulary was strange. I explained that a martin was a type of bird … and that phlox was kind of like a low-growing hydrangea. What’s a hydrangea? You know, those puffy ball flowers. Mahogany? Well, it’s a kind of dark reddish wood. No, not really like the desk … darker than that.
We came across the word “ink,” and he excitedly told me that people used to dip feathers into it to write with. I told him he was right, and explained how in old schools, there would be an inkwell right in the desk, though students then would use nib pens, rather than feathers. I told him that some kids would dip the braids of the girls in front of them into the inkwells, when they wanted to be naughty. He was much astonished by this information, and seemed sobered by the thought that back in the day, there were different and perhaps more entertaining ways to be bad.
As we were reading, we came across the word “pink.” He couldn’t figure it out. So I demonstrated that if you took the P off, you had ink. And he knew about ink, right? So … what sound does a P make? And then if you put it with the ink, what do you have? I wish I’d had a camera to record the look on his face.
“I get it!” he shrieked. “It’s the same word, but with a different letter in front.” He was so excited about this that I put the book aside and got a piece of paper and a pencil, so we could see how it worked with other words, like link and think and rink and sink. Whether he’ll remember any of it, I have no idea. I’m sure I’m not the first person to do this with him, but surely repetition is the key.
After half an hour of this, I was completely exhausted. I don’t know how parents survive, or schoolteachers.
The SMART program gives books to children twice a month, to take home. This odd book was the one he’d picked. After all the weird words, he wasn’t so sure he wanted to take it home. I didn’t blame him.
March 11, 2008 at 4:54 am |
That’s so cool! Cheezy’s reading to kids, too. You guys rock.
March 11, 2008 at 4:56 am |
This? Was the best thing I’ve read all month.
March 11, 2008 at 5:00 am |
*blushing* Thanks, ladies.
March 11, 2008 at 6:28 am |
D, you rock.
March 11, 2008 at 8:06 am |
The soul of a teacher … you are a natural!
March 11, 2008 at 8:09 am |
So cool it’s hot.
March 11, 2008 at 10:55 am |
Come on admit it. You loved it, when you saw the light come on in that little boy’s eyes.
You’re doing a good thing, David, and it sounds like you might be very good at it.
March 11, 2008 at 1:51 pm |
It sounds like Julio thoroughly enjoyed reading with you and it actually sounds like you enjoyed it, too!
Good job!
March 11, 2008 at 7:53 pm |
David, it sounds like you really captured his attention! That’s great! Congratulations!
March 11, 2008 at 8:25 pm |
Great job. I can feel the excitement from here.
Rose
xo
March 11, 2008 at 10:09 pm |
David, just in case you don’t know (you probably do) what you had with Julio was “a teachable moment”, and you made virtually perfect use of it. I can tell you that he will almost certainly remember the permutations of ink, at least to some degree–and that it will cause him to wonder about the secrets for decoding other words, which he might even bring back to you, like mice, the next time you see him.
If Julio’s hispanic, you, as a male person, might be able to make a huge impression on him about the importance of reading by this kind of involvement and “sharing of secrets”.
I am so proud of you.
March 11, 2008 at 10:13 pm |
That’s really cool!
March 11, 2008 at 11:54 pm |
I agree with the others that you did a super job – staying in the moment with Julio and responding to his cues. Good for you, David.
March 12, 2008 at 12:22 am |
Sounds like it was fun after all, I’m glad it was a positive, if wearing, expereince.
March 12, 2008 at 3:41 am |
Excellent, David. I can understand your fright, I don’t especially like young boys although they are in my classes.
You made a connect, something that will last a lifetime, if only on a subconscious level. Congrats, keep it up. It gets easier, and better.
March 12, 2008 at 4:36 am |
You got to teach Phonics! I’m working on the same with my two daughters at the moment.
March 13, 2008 at 12:28 am |
A moment stolen from The Press of Commerce: even though what you’re doing is not fun (so sez you) it does matter. I belive it when you write it’s not fun — one of my brothers did similar work, it wrung him out, and he was a teacher.
But the small amount of time spent with Julio? It sounds like even one light-bulb moment is more than that kid has had in a long while.
Hang in there, and keep being who you are (as if you could do otherwise!)
You, present, is way better than all the saccharine faux-parenting left-over kids like Julio get.
March 16, 2008 at 10:23 pm |
Maybe you are the first to take this kind of time to show him these things. David…you don’t know how happy this post made me! Little Julio probably doesn’t get this kind of help from his parents (since they don’t speak English)…and it sounds like his teachers have written him off as being a difficult child.
I have a feeling you will end up being more than a mentor to this child…you will be his hero!
When he grows up, he will tell the story of a man named David who took the time to explain things to him in a way he could understand.
March 16, 2008 at 10:25 pm |
I wish I could keep reading…but I’ve got to go get ready to leave…I’ll catch up on the rest of your blog later.
Smooches!